I feel like someone who has been absent in their marriage. Things were falling apart around me while I just sat back and let it happen. Before we got to the point of no return, I chose to stage an intervention in the form of the hair analysis. If this were a marriage, I would liken this experience to renewing my vows.
So I took the liberty to actually create a set of vows and promises to my hair as we embark on our new journey together.
***clears throat***
"For years you have stood by me. As you grew, I grew. We fulfilled each other's needs. But things changed when I began to drift away from you. My actions made hurt you. Yet despite it all, you were still here, with me, waiting for the day when I would return to the person I once was.
Now I'm ready. I will now give you the time, attention, and love you so crave. I will nourish you and keep you healthy. I'll shower you with attention. We will thrive together."
Based on the conversation with the Komaza consultant, I will need to get back to the basics. I'll start by doing consistent monthly protein treatments every few weeks using my Babyface Pure Protein. This will help repair some of the cuticle lifting. I also was told that my hair would benefit greatly from a strengthening leave in conditioner. Which I can use on wash days and even periodically throughout the week. Because it's a water based product, my hair will be getting a mix of moisture and protein all at once. I purchased a leave-in on Komaza's site. Along with that I picked up a bottle of It's a 10 with Keratin (which my straight hair loves!). Oh yeah, let's not forget Biolage Cera Repair which is a strengthening leave in that utilizes the power of ceramides. I think I'll pick up a couple other brands to experiment with until I find the perfect leave-in strengthening moisturizer.
What's critical about my commitment is that I remain consistent. Being inconsistent is what got me here in the first place. The sheer amount of time it takes for me to wash, deep condition and roller set my hair was the root cause. If I have any weekend activities planned, I'm pretty much screwed. But there are ways to work around it. I was just too lazy to make everything work. I had the mentality of "it's only one way or another." Either I do my hair or I participate in weekend activities. Now I'll
The good news is that my hair, according to the consultant, is thick and strong. She really emphasized the word thick and even gave me the dimensional size of my strands. I've got to use that to my advantage somehow. One thing I will do, for sure, is not too long in between trims. I'll try to trim at least twice a year if not more. After taking off a couple of inches, I'm back to just below bra-strap length which is a good place to start again. I'm actually excited to get back on the saddle. I love forward to the journey ahead.
Great Post! After deciding to go back to a relaxer after accepting that I don't have the time or patience for a natural life, I look forward to your future posts. I have loved your blog since finding it a few years ago. It helped me to realize that even relaxed hair can be healthy. Grace, Peace, & Blessings.
ReplyDeleteYour hair is gorgeous and has mega bling.
ReplyDeleteConsistency is key. However, if I'm not in the mood, I don't. This is the only way to ensure I don't do something I might regret. I tend to exercise poor judgement when I'm rushing. I have worked hard on mastering air drying as that speeds things up tremendously on the days I don't feel up to and/or have time for roller setting.
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Lovely post! This has certainly come at the perfect time as i am just about to start my own healthy hair journey. You have inspired me to document mine so that i can keep track of what is working and what isn't.
ReplyDeleteFor the most of this year i had no idea what i wanted to do with my hair. I'm still not 100% sure but i want to start taking care of it either way
xo Stephanie
I've recently dedicated myself to my hhj again. I lost the passion I had in the beginning. I truly feel like I'm starting all over again. So glad you posted this.
ReplyDeleteJust found your blog. Love this post. Looking forward to future entries. PPW
ReplyDeleteGreat post! I think that its okay to take a break when you need one. At least you have a plan of action to go on!
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Your hair always looks good. It has great color!
ReplyDeleteSometimes you need a break to re-gather and get back in the game.